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Adoption Finalization

The Papa’s Perspective

The adoption of Wiley and Owen was finalized at the end of February. We are very grateful to everyone that has helped and supported us through the adoption process! It has truly been amazing! Olivia shared about the finalization from her perspective a few weeks ago, but I wanted to share something special from that day.  The judicial process was pretty standard.  Everyone introduced themselves; the judge read a motion our attorney had filed; and the Adoption Specialist made a recommendation that the adoption of the boys be finalized.  The judge then asked me why she should finalize the adoption of the boys.  Fortunately, our attorney has told me this might happen so that I would be prepared.  Here is what I read before the court:

Your Honor,

Adoption is more to us than merely a means to having children, though Olivia and I have desired to adopt for some time.  When Olivia was very small, she told her mother than she wanted multi-cultural eggs.   We are not here merely to have children, but to love these children because Christ first loved us that we might be heirs and sons.

While the Law of God is not often heard in the courts of this land, it does govern our hearts.  God’s Word is filled with adoption imagery.   Ephesians 1 says, “In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved.”

I wish I could stand here and tell you that you should finalize our adoption because we’re providing these boys the perfect home.  That we have the perfect marriage; that I am a perfect father; that they’ll never want for anything; that our home is neat and tidy all the time; or, that I’ll be the perfect husband, protector, provider, leader, educator, disciplinarian, role model, advocate, and confidant.  I even wish I could tell you that we are prepared.  But all this would be a lie.  I fail at these things every day.

It is true; I have a wonderful father, who is a shining example of all of these things.  But, my dad has taught me more than his words ever told me.  He has shown me how to be patient.  He has given of himself for our family for over 30 years, putting his needs, not just second, but many times last.  He’s exhibited self-sacrificial love that goes far beyond sentiment.

These last 3 and a half months, Olivia and I have been learning to put our needs last.  There have been times that she has realized at dinnertime that she never finished her breakfast.  I have obviously never missed a meal, but we’ve spent many nights awake, both holding these little ones and nurturing them.  There have been many unfinished cups of coffee quickly heated in the microwave.  Many chores left undone and opportunities ignored.

When I think of Christ’s giving of himself, even to the point of shedding his own blood for the remission of our sin and guilt, I’m astounded at the precedent that our Savior has set.  Yesterday on 4 hours sleep, I drove nearly 700 miles, worked 14 hours in two states and made it home in time to stay up until nearly 1:00 to feed and care for my boys.  While the task is sometimes daunting and physically exhausting, I’m reminded that adoption does not come without a price.  What a small price compared to the Glory of the Cross.

Much as Christ acts as our great Mediator before God, having atoned for our sin and calling us to his side even while we are unable to come on our own, I stand before you in this court asking for these little ones to finalize their adoption into our family.

For my wife, sons and myself, thank you!

Owen and Wiley are very small and were unable to ask the judge for what they needed.  They can’t stand on their own before the judge, but they have a mediator in me.  I was able to ask for them and they were made my sons and heirs in my family forever.  In a much more glorious way, Christ stands before the throne of God, as mediator for his people.  

“For there is one God, and there is one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, who gave himself as a ransom for all…”  I Timothy 2  

“…yet we know that a person is not justified by the works of the law but through faith in Christ Jesus, so we also have believed in Christ Jesus, in order to be justified by faith in Christ and not by works of the law, because by works of the law no one will be justified.”  Galatians 2


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Adoption Finalization, February 27, 2013
Adoption Finalization, February 27, 2013

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